day 16 of no contact. i don’t really check his socials anymore because every time i do it just keeps me stuck in limbo. he didn’t check my profile for a week then suddenly started checking again. i’m trying so hard not to react because i know it doesn’t mean anything. i still think about him. i don’t want to forget him but i have to. i have to move on because i know he’s doing the same. i’m still struggling with one thing though:
how do i actually let him stop dictating my emotions? whenever he checks my profile it gives me a dopamine hit and it’s temporary. when it’s gone i’m back to feeling anxious idk why
Last updated on:2025-11-21T01:48:02+05:30
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do you feel like the anxiety comes from hoping his views mean he might come back, or is it more about missing the connection you had?
his views don’t actually change anything in real life. i’d let myself feel the dopamine but not build a whole story around it
when i did no contact with my ex, him viewing my stories would literally send me into orbit. that tiny hit of “he still thinks about me” kept me stuck for MONTHS. the crash after? awful. it’s like your brain gets addicted to crumbs when your heart used to get the whole person. you’re not crazy for feeling anxious. it’s withdrawal, honestly
I think u might need to just block him so all of that just goes away. because ur just checking if he has looked at ur profile. and then if u have him blocked u cant see any of his stuff that will remind u of him like if its insta and he’s posts something or he likes ur story for who knows why. men like to do that so they know u are still under their wing. don’t let him do that be with yourself for now so you can be happy and strong. you got this girl
what social is it? have you thought of taking a break from it?