Today I'm at day 14 of not reaching out,it's very hard not to text him or call him. we parted at very good terms,he even wants to stay friends because he said he really cares about me and doesn't want to lose me ,I know our relationship had no future at all but we both loved each other ,I probably loved him more for sure but he is a good guy with a really good heart. I do miss him terribly and I know he will get in touch with me soon but a part of me hopes that he won't because it will just open the wound. it has been very painful not to reach out,today I almost did but again I remembered that I have to heal and no contact helps I guess,I'm not even sure if it really does. we broke up many times before and we always find our way to one another again but this time,it's the end...
Last updated on:2025-11-22T09:35:17+05:30
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it's really painful because our brains treat break-up like an actual withdrawal. you are deprived from all that dopamine and ocytocine and you could even feel physically pain. some days I'm okay but some other days,I find myself looking at his WhatsApp to see if he is online and just knowing that he is okay. I'm so afraid of breaking no contact,so I try to make myself busy all day so I wont have time to think about him but even if I'm busy,I still think about him. it's crazy. I've never struggled this much to forget about someone.
when you say this time is the end, does it feel different in your body or is it more like you’re trying to make it the end because you’re tired of the cycle?
it has to end because we basically have no future together. it's impossible for us to be together even though we both want it. it feels really painful. I keep on looking at him online on WhatsApp and so many times,I almost texted him but again I stop myself at the last minute because I know by breaking no contact I'll set myself back 2 weeks. I have to make it to 30 days and I'm not even sure if that will work. I went almost 60 days no contact before and the moment he texted back,we went right back at it like nothing had happened . I can't even count how many times we had broken up and went back together. I have a special ringtone for his texts and another one for when he calls. I keep on waiting to hear that on my phone even though I will try not to respond but I don't know if I will have the courage not to text him back. I miss him so much and I think he does too.
my ex and i also ended on good terms at last after a fight. never thought it’d hurt so much. you’re very strong for holding back. keep no contact and protect your peace🍀
taking it one hour at a time instead of thinking long term. no contact feels impossible when you treat it like a forever thing.
I think what could help also is Journaling. each time I want to text him,I write down a text and save it in the notes on my phone,it makes me feel a little lighter I guess but I never send him those texts,I just keep them in my phone.
i went through something almost exactly like this and reading your words felt like looking at my old journal. we kept breaking up and sliding back to each other because the love was real, but the future wasn’t. the no contact part was brutal. i’d stare at my phone like it was oxygen. i remember telling myself “i hope he doesn’t text… but also god please text me.” that push and pull hurts so much. you’re not alone in this at all