i thought i was doing better at not checking anymore but the urge kicks in sometimes. so i checked his instagram today and his following+follower went up by 2. i’m going to protect my peace by not digging out who he followed. it’s only been 2 weeks when he gave me closure and said he needs to grow on his own. then he followed back the girl that used to like him a day after. now he’s following more people.
is he doing this to forget me even though he still checks my profile? i’m not using anyone to help me forget him but he’s doing the opposite. i don’t think i want him back anymore if he’s like this
Last updated on:2025-11-22T09:31:03+05:30
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what part of his recent behavior actually hit you the hardest?
when i catch myself spiraling like that, i literally just remind myself that his online activity has NOTHING to do with my worth. people cope messy. people cope loud. if checking makes you feel worse, it might help to mute him for a bit. that’s what usually keeps me sane.
stop checking, you are hurting yourself with the overthinking. let him do whatever he wants to do. and you focus on your own stuff.
it’s hard to ovoid checking but it’s the only solution to find peace… Mine follows only things about religion and mental health after our break up… and didn’t block me anywhere
when my ex and i ended, i kept pretending i didn’t care but i’d still check his followers like it was a reflex. and every new follow felt like a punch. it’s wild how they say “i need to grow alone” then immediately go seek distractions. it messed with my head too. you’re not crazy for noticing it. it really does hurt.