Weve been together for a year and a half. weve broken up a while ago but we had kind of an unclear situation, it was clear that we both still love each other. Yesterday he called me and said he doesnt know what he feels about the whole thing. I said it still can work out if he wants to. Now he said he isnt ready for it even though he really wants to and really loves me. I feel betrayed. We could overcome all the obstacles together but he chose to give up on me although I fought with all my strength to have him back. Now the real no contact begins.
Last updated on:2025-11-26T04:04:02+05:30
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when he said he “really wants to” but “isn’t ready,” did he explain what exactly he’s scared of or avoiding? i’m just trying to understand what part of the relationship he’s running from.
He just got out of his military service and said he needed time to found out what he wants to do in his life, and he wants to get to know himself better in general. Like to take the time and explore himself. I think its a good thing in general that he wants to do this, I just really dont understand why he wants to do this alone
he didn’t choose you the way you chose him. no contact hurts like hell at first, but it also clears out the noise so your brain can stop replaying the “what ifs.”
I'm exactly in the same situation. Atleast we can say we tried. Now it's time to give ourselves the love we gave them.
i had a guy tell me he “still loved me” but “wasn’t ready” too and it messed with my head so bad. that in-between place where they want the comfort but not the commitment… it feels like betrayal even if they don’t say the word. i remember sitting there thinking, i fought for us and you didn’t. i’m really sorry you’re feeling that right now
Thank you. Yes, they must choose. And if they dont do so and keep us "in between" then its better to let them go
i was with my boyfriend for a year and a half , and we broke up suddenly due to something we couldn’t control . The first time , he called me a day after and we got back together but then a month later he broke up with me because of the stress of us having to lie about our relationship so his parents wouldn’t find out . I understand how it’s hard when you still both love eacother , cause me and him both still love eacother . And i also feel betrayed cause me and him could have gotten over it , but sweetie if it’s meant to be it will be . Better days are coming , although it doesn’t feel like it . 💓
Thank you! Im sure it will get better for you too, there are a lot of people out there and one of them will also suit you and you will be able to love him as much as you loved your ex and even more. But I guess we both need to learn how to give up on those who have given up on us and we must know what wars are to be fought and what are to be left alone. It will get better