I think I'm being selfish and I just need someone to talk me out of it. I miss him a lot. if I'm really honest, I want him back. I want to make a connection that's stronger and built on trust, not codependency. I don't think I'm the one that can open the door, though. I think it has to be him, but I don't think he will. I feel so lost.
Last updated on:2025-11-27T09:07:51+05:30
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when you say you want a connection built on trust, do you feel like he ever showed you he wanted that too, or was it mostly you trying to make it happen?
he always wanted that. my trauma was stopping me from giving him that which in turn pulled his trust away from me. we didn't fall out of love, we fell out of trust, which is crucial to a relationship.
when i get into that lost place, i try to pause before acting on the missing. missing someone doesn’t mean they’re meant to come back. sometimes it’s just my brain wanting comfort. you don’t need to do anything right now. you can just let the feeling pass a bit.
i went back to my ex twice because i missed him so bad and i kept telling myself “this time we’ll do it right.” i wanted the connection without all the mess. but i also knew i was always the one knocking on the door first. that feeling of “it has to be them” is so real
I feel the same we broke up the beginning of October and I chased him now I am leaving him alone. he did reach out last Thursday night but that was because we had storms and he knew I had tickets to a event and told me to be safe. but I don’t think he will reach out again . all I can say is be strong don’t break no contact I almost gave in today but I did not. you got this hope it gets better for you
Do you want him back or do you want the feeling of a connection?