My ex-girlfriend left me for mental health reasons she wanted to be alone to heal from past trauma and to work on herself. She’s a survivor but she doesn’t go to therapy or take medication.
After we broke up I broke no-contact three times because I was worried about her. She had made some comments about using a breakup to soften the blow of suicidal thoughts and I panicked. I reached out to check on her and to ask why she kept blocking me everywhere. She told me multiple times to leave her alone and now I realize I should have respected that. Eventually she blocked me completely.
Today I noticed I was unblocked after a month and decided to reach out. Her response was brutal she said she hates me that I should go away for good that I never respected her need for space and that I hurt and frustrated her by not listening. She told me she doesn’t care if I live or die that she’s better off without me and that she doesn’t miss me.
Last updated on:2025-12-14T18:13:58+05:30
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when you reached out those times, were you doing it for her or because you were carrying the fear alone and needed reassurance?
I think this user stole my post off of reddit cause this is exactly my story, uhm when I reached out I think it was more due to like not accepting the breakup. like when we did she said multiple stuff about "not wanting this", "still loving me", "tried to find a way where she could stay and do both", so ig in my head when she did block or whatever, lead to me feeling like I was losing her which I hadn't accepted cause in my head "Oh were gonna come back together". Ig I was just living in denial...
the only thing that ever helped was stepping all the way back. like fully off the stage. people in that headspace say things that are heavy and unfair, and sitting in that line of fire doesn’t help either of you. give yourself some distance so you can breathe again.
like I said to another poster think someone stole this cause this my story, but yeh I've ig somewhat come to terms with the fact that I was living in denial cause she "didn't want the bteak up" and "still loved me the same way" and all that stuff that in my head this wasn't actually a breakup it was just a temporary seperation ig. Either way I've come to terms with that if someone can express indifference to me living or dehumanise me (poster left out the part where she called me a "needy and desperate young pup barking for her attention") then reaching out is just gonna cause pain and have to accept they're not coming back. Still struggling with the breakup and also self forgiveness cause I did technically harass my ex and feel horrible about it, but every day gets easier.
i went through something kinda similar with my ex who struggled a lot and would say scary stuff whenever things got bad. i kept checking in because i was terrified something would happen, and she ended up lashing out at me too. it messed with my head for a long time. i’m really sorry you got hit with words like that. that kind of anger leaves a mark even when you know it wasn’t really about you
As I stated above think poster stole this from me cause posted this on reddit. Thank you for this, think I was living in denial as "she didn't want the breakup", "still loved me the same", "Wasn't cause of me", etc so I struggled ig. I've come to terms with it though that I must move on and I'm still healing ig but every day is easier and yeh I've come to terms with if someone can speak to me that way then ig they didn't love me as deep as I loved them and even if depression ismaking her more irritable, I don't deserve that kinda response