So I broke no contact because it was killing me not knowing if he had tried to message me after I blocked him. He said no because he had messaged me last (at this point it was 2 weeks). So anyway we spoke via text and everything was running smoothly as in we were amicable again but not met up or anything. He's got a 13yr old who stays with him alot and mostly got in-between our plans (which I'm fine with). He asked to meet up but then his son asked to stay with him, normally that wouldn't bother him he'd still come and see me but not of late before we broke up. We were considering trying again as we only separated because he's a performer so on tour, got rehearsals and son which means I'm always an after thought, this kills me because I love him so much I don't want to be without him. Anyway he called me on Monday around 11pm and said it slipped his mind that I had messaged him on Sunday night (muggy) then stated he'll call me the next day for sure (he didn't) and I still haven't heard from him yet. So am I being stupid for thinking he really wants to be with me? it really doesn't feel that way and I'll always be last to get any attention, so why am I wasting my time. I've actually sent him a message telling him it's better if we go our separate ways from now (he hasn't responded)
Last updated on:2025-11-28T08:09:48+05:30
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can i ask something gently? when things were “smooth” after breaking no contact, did you actually feel secure again or were you kinda waiting for the next letdown?
It actually felt secure, but the let downs just kept coming and coming.
First he planned to see me then said he couldn't because his 13 year old decided to stay over, this has never been an issue before.
Then he said it crossed his mind that I had messaged him (this was 2 days later), I'm now thinking how could you forget I'd messaged you. Then when he called 2 days later he was at work talking to customers so not really interested in speaking to me or giving me his full attention, the call ended with him saying he'll definitely call me the next day.
Next day came and went with no call, that's when I realised he's not interested in making this work causes he's forgetting about me more than he remembers about me, whilst I'm sat at home waiting for him to call.
That's when I decided enough was enough, I'm worth more than this crap and it's better for me to be alone than alone thinking I'm in a relationship.
your message telling him it’s better to move on actually sounds like you choosing yourself a little. maybe sit with that and see how it feels.
I'm definitely choosing myself because he's definitely not choosing me so why would I hang around.
When we were getting back together a couple of weeks ago he said he'll stay with me forever because I'm a keeper and real. Then chooses to act like this.
I'll now be my own keeper and stay real to myself.
I honestly believe this is God's way of telling me he's not the one, move on and trust in him.
i dated a guy with a kid too and i kept telling myself “it’s fine, i get it,” but deep down i always felt like an afterthought. the forgetting to call, the “it slipped my mind” thing… yeah, that was the same pattern for me. it broke me in ways i didn’t even see at the time. you’re not stupid for wanting him, you’re human
I feel terrible thinking I deserve more than what I'm receiving because he's a good dad. but at the same time his son being at his didn't concern him before and he'd stop over at mine ALOT not leaving until the early morning when his son was at his house. so this excuse to say my son decided to stay over has me thinking he just doesn't want me anymore. I deserve better and just can't be bothered to try anymore.
do what you.can
I've got this 🙏🏽
God I wish I was to that point
I think I'm at this point now because he doesn't seem to be trying anymore and I can't keep sacrificing my happiness waiting around for him to remember I exist. I was prepared to say no to other guys just to wait for him to give me that little bit more when they may be able to give me what I want, needed and deserved now. so yes, I'm now at this point purely from exhaustion of being let down, fedup of getting all done up for him not to turn up or even call or message....that crap begins to wear thin
how long has it been for you?