Why is it so hard to get over a narcissistic partner? It literally made me think about him non-stop, think it was my fault even though it clearly wasn't, wish I could find him even though he was the one who did wrong and manipulated me. He acted so perfectly at first that after he changed I couldn't believe he was the same person. It seems unreal to me how many versions he can have and it seems unreal to me that even though I'm aware of everything, he still makes me want to go back.
I'm really a rational person and he was the person I argued with because of him and in the end I agreed with him and apologized!! and I didn't understand how it was possible. And even though I know I humiliated myself and he doesn't deserve me, I still think about him obsessively.
It's hard for me to accept that he was just playing with me for validation and that what he felt for me wasn't real when I know that I was sincere and truly cared about him.
Last updated on:2025-12-10T01:57:03+05:30
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when you think about going back, is it him you miss or the version of him he pretended to be at the start?
So basically, the part in ur brain that makes you want them so bad is the same as the one that makes u crave dr*gs. So, he is actually like a dr*g. When you felt stressed, anxious, sad, angry, he would just tell you some lovely things and boom, here is ur dose. You immediately felt better. But now that he isn’t here anymore, even if you are suffering, in pain or whatever, you don’t have your dose anymore. So this is why it’s hard, your brain is processing the same pain of healing from a dr*g. Your body needs time to recover, same as your soul. You crave them, you just want confort and love, you just want to stop feeling bad. But don’t forget that they are the one who made you feel this way in the first place. I know that you care abt him, I still love mine with all my heart, but we need to treat ourselves first. We got this ❤️
sound like my avoidant dismissed ex perfect sweet to cold mean evil dry
every time i cut off contact, even for a few days, my head got a tiny bit clearer.
i had a narcissistic ex too and the way they can switch personalities is insane. mine went from “perfect soulmate” to cold stranger so fast that my brain just couldn’t catch up. i kept thinking i was the problem even when he was the one manipulating me. the obsession after… that part felt like withdrawal
Exactly... and I had reached a point where I was drained of energy, I couldn't think of anything else, I was obsessively checking to see if he replied to my messages, he was lying to me even with the evidence in front of me... now I'm starting to recover but the obsession with him still remained