So my first ever breakup when me and my ex broke up I struggled with separation anxiety and every 4-5 days when she'd block me somewhere new or delete a chat would reach out since we left on good terms and would be confused (she left due to her mental health, depression, past trauma, and do to being suicidal (she used to say she would use a breakup to soften the blow if she attempted again which I think also didn't help my anxiety) and ig I assumed when she was better we would pick up where we left off), after doing this the 3rd time despite her wishes of being left alone I ended up getting blocked. Now she hates me and I feel like I've ruined any chance of reconciliation, any tips for self forgiveness?
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do you feel like you understand why she needed that space now? sometimes really seeing their side helps soften the guilt.
Yeh I do, like I always ig understood it, ig it was more I was living in denial that I was loosing her. I did only do it 3 times tho I still know its unacceptable, just yeh I think as I stated on other comments was living in denial of her "not wanting this", "still loving me", "feeling the same", etc that I was like "Why is she cutting me out of her life?". I was very much I think still in denial.
self-forgiveness comes from realizing you acted from love and worry, not malice. maybe journal how you felt then vs now, and remind yourself growth is happening even in mistakes.
hey thank you for your comment and yeh a lot of people told me I acted in a emotional way cause Im an emotional and loving guy and I didnt do it out of hate or malice so to be not too hard on myself and just try to learn from it but I've been struggling with it and have come to accept that and that ig I was in denial due to her "not wanting this", "still love you the same and feel the same", "this isn't about you" and "I thought for days on some way I could manage both you and my mental health and I just cant despite begging and crying and pleading for some way for it to work" so ig I was living in denial.I guess I just can't belive I lost her, since this was my first breakup it's stings like hell rn and I'm switching between being okay to struggling kinda like a light switch. Guess I mainly feel guilty as cause when I ran into her the other day she told me she hates me and said a bunch of other cruel and nasty things to me and also told me I ruined any chance of reconciliation.
my ex had trauma too, and i kept reaching out even when she needed space. it HURT when i got blocked. forgiving myself took time, just accepting i did what i thought was right at the moment
hey thank you for your comment, yeh I've been struggling with it and have come to accept that and that ig I was in denial due to her "not wanting this", "still love you the same and feel the same", "this isn't about you" and "I thought for days on some way I could manage both you and my mental health and I just cant despite begging and crying and pleading for some way for it to work" so ig I was living in denial.I guess I just can't belive I lost her, since this was my first breakup it's stings like hell rn and I'm switching between being okay to struggling kinda like a light switch. Guess I mainly feel guilty as cause when I ran into her the other day she told me she hates me and said a bunch of other cruel and nasty things to me and also told me I ruined any chance of reconciliation or made a tough time for her harder.