So it's been a month and I ran into her after she blocked me on everything and when I went to talk to her she told me she hates me, is better off without me not giving her space after the breakup, that she doesn't miss me, is never coming back to me and doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want me or us. Told me she doesn't care about my emotions and whatever I want to or feel I have to say and that I could go die for all she cared. Told me she sees me as nothing but a "needy little young pup barking for her attention and to go bark for someone else" she told me I'm so desperate it hurts, annoys and frustrates her. Felt like my heart had been torn to ribbons.
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after she said all that, what are you left feeling more of right now… shock, shame, anger, or just numbness?
Uhmmm tbh felt immense pain tbh and sadness that she felt that way towards me. I mean when we had split as I stated in other replies it was very much kinda hot and cold mixed msgs and love was still there so cut deeply. I also felt immense guil and still kinda do, like I know it's not acceptable for her to speak to me that way but I feel guilty liked I forced her to and ig that's my same feeling with the breakup like its my fault that I lost her, idk I just feel ig guilty that I ruined any chance of reconciliation as you can see probably in my other comment responses
when someone talks to you like that, it says way more about where they’re at than who you are.
hey yeh I after a long chat with a friend last night have ig come to accept her words dont define me as a person, like I stated on another comment she left for her mental health reasons, past trauma, depression, suicidal ideation etc and not wanting to "drag me down", "feel guilty for not giving me what I deserve" etc. By the end of the relationship I saw her irritability increase tenfold. Seemed like every word I spoke annoyed her and she was aware of this and I think it's common in depressed individuals. On top of that when we broke up I struggled with seperation anxiety (she also said multiple times she'd use a breakup to soften the blow if she attempted su**ide again which didn't help it) and was living in denial cause "she didn't want this", "she still loved me the same" and "this wasn't cause of me" etc so since this was my first breakup I kept reaching out despite her telling me to forget she exists, leave her alone, go love someone else, etc. For the record only did it 3 times when she would block me somewhere new every 4-5 days or delete one of our chats. So think it all ended up pissing her off and making her say that stuff. Since she claims its ruined all chance of reconciliation. Guess it's just a part of the breakup which as my first has stung as hell, but I've realised that even if I did cross some lines (I mean it ig was technically harassment) I can learn from it and I didn't deserve to be spoken to that way.
my ex said stuff meant to crush me too, like really went for the throat. that moment when they flip cold and cruel… it sticks in your body. i’m so sorry you had to hear all that
hey thank you for your sympathy, like I stated on another comment she left for her mental health reasons, past trauma, depression, suicidal ideation etc and not wanting to "drag me down", "feel guilty for not giving me what I deserve" etc. By the end of the relationship I saw her irritability increase tenfold. Seemed like every word I spoke annoyed her and she was aware of this and I think it's common in depressed individuals. On top of that when we broke up I struggled with seperation anxiety (she also said multiple times she'd use a breakup to soften the blow if she attempted su**ide again which didn't help it) and was living in denial cause "she didn't want this", "she still loved me the same" and "this wasn't cause of me" etc so since this was my first breakup I kept reaching out despite her telling me to forget she exists, leave her alone, go love someone else, etc. For the record only did it 3 times when she would block me somewhere new every 4-5 days or delete one of our chats. So think it all ended up pissing her off and making her say that stuff. Since she claims its ruined all chance of reconciliation. Guess it's just a part of the breakup which as my first has stung as hell, but I've realised that even if I did cross some lines (I mean it ig was technically harassment) I can learn from it and I didn't deserve to be spoken to that way.
Wow! That's harsh. Now that you know, no point in wasting any more time on her.
Yeh thank you, she left for mental health and to deal with trauma and not wanting to drag me down, etc. Every 4-5 days she'd block me somewhere or delete a chat so I'd reach out asking why cause "I don't want the breakup" and "still love you and feel the same way" and my first breakup so I'd reach out (also she said she'd use a breakup to soften the blow is she attempted su**de again which also fueled my seperation anxiety. She obviously got pissed at telling me to forget she exists, move on, love someone else, etc that made her react this way (and I'm gonna learn from this as yeh first breakup and learn to just let them go the minute they dip and respect boundaries and not be as emotional driven and not technically harass someone) but yeh even then harsh is really how it feels.
3 times*
just to clarify so I don't seem too crazy
After the 3rd time I did she blocked me so yeh