I am a 22 year old female. I have began a new job in September and immediately got close with my 37 year old male co-worker. although there is that age difference we have a lot in common and quickly became good friends. everyday we would spend time together working or at break, or before or after work. we have so many inside jokes now and there was a moment where we almost hooked up. it was an intense few weeks where we would constantly send spicy messages and photos and constantly talking about it. we almost did it but then he told me he has a wife and kids. I did not know that before. things got rocky because he kept saying how much he wants me but he is morally too scared to cheat. we pulled away even though I still really really wanted him. I know thats bad of me because he has a family and I would not want to hurt anyone. but some part of me really loves him. I would never act on it because of his family but I seek his validation and attention all the time now. like im trying to prove to him that I am amazing and he missed out? he keeps going from nice and caring, to mean and distant and then disappearing all together. and then doing that all over again and again. I am so sick of his games but I really really want to hear one more time that he wants me (I guess to boost my confidence) or to hear an apology. I wanted things to go back to just normal friendship we had at the start but his switch ups (and might I add that he keeps putting me down and calling me mean names and being rude when he is in that mode) really upset and annoy me. what do I do? I won't see him now until after Christmas break (its an office job) but he keeps viewing my Instagram posts and stories and I do the same with his... should I talk to him about it after the break? how do I stop myself from constantly seeking approval and attention from him?
Last updated on:2025-12-20T14:46:17+05:30
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first off the fact that he's already married with kids should already make him feel disgusting to you. secondly, I advice you block him on everything! and thirdly as much as it will hurt you, you certainly have to move on from him or better still find another job somewhere else or change your department at your work place. if he can still make work difficult for you then I wonder how powerful he'll be feeling knowing that you still seek validation from him. please and please you need to let this person go and focus on yourself
i am a man and i will tell you this. most men cheat with their co workers. because its a nature thing for a man to get sexually attracted to coworkers. you will be used everytime he has a fight with his one. and boost his ego. you might be the best and the most amazing. but only to the one that doesnt want anything from you.
he is feeding off the attention you are giving him please please please get away
don’t talk to him
block him do EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER TO NOT INTERACT OUTSIDE WORK
just ignore him
get away from that man, if he can’t treat his wife with respect why think he would to you. especially with how he has been acting lately. don’t do it girl, stop it. please. that’s horrible that you even still want that pos. good luck honey ❤️. please don’t do the wrong thing because he is a manipulative deceiving man who doesn’t deserve a woman. you should want someone responsible enough to not even do that stuff. not trying to be mean but get away girl, as fast as you can!!!