day 50 of no contact. i don’t have plans to reach out just because it’s christmas.
finals are over and everyone’s going back home for christmas and new year’s, including him. my family doesn’t celebrate christmas so it’s just an ordinary day for me. he’s probably having the best time of his life out there right now, catching up with friends. it sucks cuz we were so close to spending it together this year. i say i don’t care what he does now but i still think about him a few times. not because i want him back, but because i want to know if he’s okay.
i know he’s not my problem now so i should just assume he is and leave it as that. but any ideas on how to prevent these thoughts from coming back again and again? i struggle to sleep at night…
i think i have to take meds again
Last updated on:2025-12-26T20:36:02+05:30
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have you tried writing him a letter you don’t send? sometimes just getting it out on paper eases the repeated looping thoughts
i did 60 days no contact last year and every holiday felt like a punch. meds helped me sleep, and journaling my thoughts made the obsession fade a bit
There's no potion or magic to prevent those thoughts. Don't worry, don't panic, nothing. It's normal. Keep the good work. I suggest that you don't care about him.
How about you wish he's okay instead of wanting to know if he's okay.
About your sleep, I'd recommend you guided meditation and do exercise (if you don't do). Also, try not to think about him or exaggerate the thought. YOU DON'T KNOW.
You're still processing and accepting it. Keep doing it. You say you don't care what he does but you said "Probably having the best time of his life... catching up with friends." You don't know that, you might say to me "I know him more than you," yeah, you do, but you also don't know. You still care and it's okay. It's a lengthy process.
Keep doing the good work. I hope that you can sleep well and have a great life.
thank you!! i appreciate it. i hope things are working out well for you too