Me and my ex split on good terms with her saying the breakup wasn't cause of me not being enough or doing something wrong. However despite this I keep going over in my head every single mistake I made and also thinking about a fight we had a month before the breakup where after her personality shifted. Does anyone have any advice? I keep blaming myself for the breakup though I know she said it wasn't so idk.
Last updated on:2025-12-31T13:48:30+05:30
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when you think about that fight and her personality shift, what do you feel more, guilt or fear that you missed something important?
like I broke us is how I feel so more ig self loathing
this might sound small, but when my mind starts listing my “mistakes,” i literally stop and say, “that’s hindsight talking.” i remind myself that if it was really all on me, the breakup wouldn’t have felt so confusing and gentle at the same time. that helps me breathe again
thank you that's very helpful insight
my ex also said “it’s not you” and i STILL replayed every argument like it was security footage. that one fight you mentioned? i obsessed over one like that too, convinced it flipped a switch. turns out my brain just needed a reason to punish me.
any advice to like not go crazy thinking bout it?