So after we broke up I chased my ex against her wishes and disrespected her boundaries and killed all good will between us. Any advice for self forgiveness and coming to terms with them gating you?
Last updated on:2026-01-01T02:42:03+05:30
How to forgive yourself for disrespecting their boundaries? and come to terms with them hating you?
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I understand the need for answers. I kept asking for answers after sudden disappearing act. He just never responded. I quit contact and apologized for multiple messages because uncertainty triggered unanswered questions. I said growth is all about working on ourselves and forgiveness. that is all you can do. Good luck we are all human and their ending does not turn off your feelings. it takes time to find yourself again.
when you think about them hating you, is it more about losing them as a person or the version of yourself you thought you were before this happened?
losing them as a person
forgiving myself didn’t mean excusing it, it meant accepting i messed up and can choose differently next time.
after my breakup i kept reaching out even when she asked for space, convinced i could fix it if i just explained myself ONE more time. instead i burned the last bit of goodwill and yeah… the shame after is brutal
give it some time... reach out to her after that in a simple text wirh sorry and why and tell her its not to get back tell her its regret and it would mean a lot if she had the heart to forgive. tell her this is ur last text to her if she replies u can react with a thanku enoji thats all.. do this after atleast 6 months of no contact... and ven if she is angry then.. u would have done what is right.
don't be so hard on yourself, you're human. who doesn't make mistakes in life, but it's how we learn from them that's going to help us to grow in the future. yes, you disrespected her boundaries but now you know what they are you can leave her be and if in time she decides to forgive you, you'll be in a better place to receive it and treat her with the respect she wanted. forgiveness will come. find distractions to help take your mind off her. do things that make you smile and be happy. put yourself first for a change, please you, not others and you'll get through this rocky patch.