She hates me but I love her

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She hates me, wants nothing to do with me, despises me, is nasty to me, wants me out if her life for good but I still love her. I know I can't force her to love me, I can't make her wanna be with me but lord I wanna just fix everything, figure out what I did to ruin the relationship and make her lose interest. How do I cope with her hating me?

Last updated on:2026-01-12T23:54:36+05:30

Comments (11)

undersorrow
undersorrow 2 mths ago

you think about her hating you, is it more painful because of her, or because you’re questioning yourself and what went wrong?

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

both

Memories01
Memories01 2 mths ago

what helped me a bit was accepting i can’t control her feelings. focus on small things for yourself, even tiny routines, it slows the spiral a little

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

thanks that's good advice

Silenctear
Silenctear 2 mths ago

my ex went from loving me to coldly ignoring me and it crushed me. the wanting-to-fix-everything part? that never stops at first. you’re not alone in feeling this.

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

any advice?

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

those are words to hurt you. She doesn't mean them. you need to hang with friends and do stuff you like. I promise as soon as you move on she'll start remembering the past and maybe on day reach out. If she doesn't you'll have slowly moved on too. stop ruminating and romanticizing the relationship.

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

okay thank you

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

First ever breakup so

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

she doesn't hate you! she is creating distance and doing it in a hurtful way. give her space and stop reaching out, you are just feeding her ego. once you go completely nc she'll wonder where you've gone. if it's meant to be she'll reach back out. you got this!!!

NeonJet197
NeonJet197 2 mths ago

She said she does