We talked about moving in for awhile and I was honestly excited we had no concrete plans and that was on me. we were thinking of moving to Canada so I could go to college there with her but while we were trying to make these plans she made a mistake. She sent an anthrax threat to a health care CEO. In an instant she could be facing 5 years in jail and couldn't move to Canada with me. she made me feel crazy for being mad at her about this. Like she didn't throw any plans we did have out the window because she was upset. I tried to be there for her and luckily she only got a year of probation with no access to substances but I couldn't talk to her about the future together anymore. I wish I had left then when she showed me her feelings were always going to be more important than the idea of a future. But I stayed. And she got tired of there being no future together.
Last updated on:2026-01-13T00:25:06+05:30
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do you still think about what could’ve been, or is it more about processing how their choices affected you?
I think it's processing the choices they made.
that sounds exhausting. from my own mess, letting go when the future isn’t mutual hurts like hell, but it eventually frees you from constantly hoping for change
staying for someone despite red flags only dragged me deeper into pain. you can’t force a future if they don’t value it the same way