So me and my ex been split for 3 months now. I've accepted it's over and the bridge is burnt. The thing I guess I'm struggling with now is replaying my mistakes in the relationship and how I hurt her and broke trust. I know we're all human and make mistakes I just can't get it out of my head the repeated fuck ups and not changing my behaviours that upset quick enough cost me losing her. That my complacency lost me the most amazing woman despite her acknowledging I was trying. During the breakup she said "It's not your fault" and stuff like that but I can't get it out of my head and thinking that was just to soften the blow and feel less guilty and let me down easy. Any advice?
Last updated on:2026-01-14T04:01:33+05:30
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you think “i lost her because of this,” are you judging past-you with what you know now, or what you actually had capacity for back then
I'm guessing the answers a bit of both
i could own what i messed up without deciding i deserved to suffer forever for it. that took time, not gonna lie
i replayed my mistakes on a loop too, especially the trust stuff. knowing i was trying but not fast enough HAUNTED me. even when they said “it’s not your fault,” my brain refused to believe it