i don’t think about him as much anymore but i still somehow look for signs of him if he views my story. it’s the muscle memory. i’m trying to do less.
why is it that the dumpers lurk around your profile, view your story still even though you’ve cut all ties with them?
Last updated on:2026-01-17T15:20:30+05:30
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do you feel like you’re looking for HIM specifically, or for reassurance that you still mattered to someone who walked away
him specifically i guess. i hadn’t felt that close with someone in a long time
from my experience, dumpers lurking usually isn’t about reconciliation. it’s curiosity, ego, or guilt. reminding myself of that helped me detach from assigning meaning to every view
same. i remind myself of the red flags from him to stay detached easily
i stopped missing him but still checked who viewed my stories like it meant something. that muscle memory is REAL. my ex dumped me and still lurked for months. it messed with my head
same. he views my story then disappears for a while and the cycle repeats