I've started no contact somedays ago, and I feel horrible, I've done many mistakes during our relationship, and I'm trying to grow as a person, but the grief and guilt I have for the things I've done is worse than the break up, how did you guys do it? how can I stop believing that we may be able to rekindle in a future?
Last updated on:2026-01-20T22:31:03+05:30
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do you think the idea of rekindling is about missing THEM, or wanting relief from the guilt and the version of yourself you’re struggling to forgive
Repent and learn from those mistakes. Prove to yourself that you are changing for the better. Make yourself the better version and dont ever go back to the person you ruined. It happened and it has a purpose.
the guilt almost crushed me more than the breakup itself. i kept replaying every mistake like a highlight reel of shame. no contact felt like punishment at first, not healing
same for me, but i started reflecting on all the good i did for them only for them to choose to forget about it. in a way, it makes it much easier to move on even though im still thinking about them. at least i can walk away with a clean conscience knowing I tried my absolute best, its a lot easier to heal when you stop looking for their validation and start recognizing your own effort