Will try to keep this short as possible to anyone taking the time to read this thank you and any advice is appreciated please any you can offer, so my ex left me for her mental health and to be alone as she was struggling with depression at the time, despite a somewhat tumultuous and idk rocky slightly breakup as I had a lot of questions which annoyed her and felt like accusations and made her feel like I didn't believe a word she had to say or needed constant reassurance we ended on good terms. After the breakup tho she wanted no contact and to be alone and for me to not msg her at all. Unfortunately I kept reaching out as she slowly unadded me and cut me out of her life, I broke NC 3 times in total whenever I would notice a new unadd ig which would make me feel like she was slipping away more and I didn't understand as we ended on good terms, this led to her getting madder and madder and reaffirming to leave her alone, she was trying to distance her emotions from me, she didn't need this, she had answered questions already, she didn't owe me anything, to go love someone else she wasn't planning on loving anyone again etc. Despite her warning me if I reached out again she would make it so she had disappeared fully from my life I did the third time like a fool. This pushed to the point of me being blocked everywhere and her saying she hates me and some other truly hostile, nasty and disrespectful things. I know it's my fault and how I handled my emotions and I have nobody to blame for the situation but myself but I feel horrible that I pushed the woman who used to love me into hating me. Every single day I feel like that thought haunts me and I don't want it to anymore. Please any advice?
Last updated on:2026-01-23T14:48:03+05:30
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what hurts more right now. missing her, or believing you’re a bad person because of how things ended
i’ve been that person who panicked when distance showed up and kept reaching out even after being told to stop. every unadd felt like abandonment and i spiraled. i pushed someone who once loved me into anger too, and that guilt haunted me for a long time 😮💨 you’re not alone in this.
keep yourself busy do things you haven't done before. learn to love yourself and to be by yourself (alone). if you really love her it's best to leave her alone and change for you and her. show her you are going to change because you love her and want her back (if that's what you want) go to the nature and yeah let your soul be free do what's in your heart 💓🫂 God bless you my brother.
@neonJet197 I know exactly how that feels. we left on somewhat good terms. but over 12days since we broke up, I kept reaching out for warmth and all I got back was coldness, distance and mean words. It's hard and its going to be hard, but we have to take this one day at a time. we can all be here for each other. I'm glad I found this app. now I don't feel so alone
feel like such a fuckup
I was in the same situation.
Your reaction wasn't unreasonable. I understand she felt overwhelmed, but everyone handles their emotions as best they can, and if you didn't know how to do it differently, that's not your fault.
any advice?
@NeonJet197 Write how you feel down. Let it all come out on paper. That usually helps me and yes, it has to be on paper because your brain processes everything more slowly.
@NormalRooney Okay thank you, I just feel like a monster