My fiancee cheated on me with our friend, who w
stayed with us for a while until he will find a job and rent something on his own, but after a while I felt that something was wrong. I was gaslighted into thinking that they're just friends and everything is fine, untill I found out few months ago. The "friend" doesn't live with us anymore, but my fiancee is in contact with him, even though he said he wants to fix our relationship. I know that breaking up is right at this point because this situation is killing me slowly but I can't. I saw future with him, I wanted to grow old with him, after my whole life of not seeing future for myself, I saw it with him and I don't know what to do anymore, it's eating me alive, him saying he loves me but having contact with the guy he cheated on me with, telling me he cares about me, but not enough to help me feel safer after his betrayal. I know at this point trying to fix it is pointless, but I can't stop
Last updated on:2026-01-29T16:57:18+05:30
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when he says he loves you but keeps contact with that person, what does your body feel first. fear, anger, or just exhaustion
I think it's everything, depends on the day, but when I hear him talking with him on the phone I feel like I'm dying. I feel alone with all of this problems right now, and he's making it worse, but I can't imagine myself without him
i was cheated on with someone i trusted too, and then gaslit into believing i was paranoid. the “i love you but still talking to them” part BROKE me. i kept hoping love would be enough
that's me right now, I'm trying to make it work, but if I'm being honest, I feel like I'm drowning, I don't really know how much more I can take from him, maybe it will sound awful, but I would prefer to be just hit in the face than feeling like I'm loosing my mind
it takes time but best thing is to make progress slowly and kill the little voice having hope
I'm trying, but when he says he loves me and shows me affection, my brain goes "maybe we will be okay?"
Take it easy take time out and think deeply what’s good for you and nobody else. Your own feelings and thoughts matter whatever decision you make be prepared to push forward with it and i know it hurts