my ex and I have been friends ever since our break up but ever since I found out he has a girlfriend, I made it clear I no longer want to be friends but he kept pushing
Randomly he'll send me stuff like he prays i can be the woman my future husband would be at peace with...
but when I asked him about how his relationship is going, he told me he likes to keep things like that personal and I kind of felt weird ...
I told him I don't want to be in a friendship where I will be uncomfortable and feel judged so I want some space
he then said he is tired of the back of forth and inconsistencies so he'll no longer be interacting with me...
did I over react?
Last updated on:2026-01-31T09:49:50+05:30
Comments (9)
you didn't overreact at all. it seems like he doesn't know what he wants and he's keeping you in arms reach. you did the right thing.
do you still want any form of contact later, or are you fully done with the friendship for now?
no
setting boundaries isn’t overreacting. you get to step back from any friendship that makes you uncomfortable. your feelings matter more than keeping someone else’s ego intact.
my ex kept dropping “advice” like that and it felt controlling. wanting space doesn’t mean you overreacted, it just means you’re protecting yourself
No you didn't. My ex wanted to be 'friends' too but what that actually means is that he wants access to you in case the next relationship doesn't work out. As much as it hurts, you did the right thing.
I think the reason is because you had hope that you guys will be back together. and I think I also won't be comfortable sharing about my new relationship with my ex .
I think you did well. the interaction doesn't seem to be beneficial to you and will keep on hurting you. let it go, it's painful but necessary for your own protection. be strong.
it's just too painful,everything keeps playing in my head ... I hope i am able to heal completely