Stop doing that

If I could give advice, I would say that no matter how much you miss that person, don't contact them!

Before I gave up completely, I would say, "I unblock him, but I don't answer him" or "I talk to him, but I answer him dryly" sau " I talk to him, but what he says doesn't affect me anymore"

They were all just excuses we used to keep in touch.

And that's how my progress went after 2 weeks, 3 weeks, all the while I had come to somewhat detach myself.

I would become somewhat detached and say that his behavior could no longer affect me, and for a moment it was, but then he would hurt me again, do something to me that he had never done before, and I would be left in shock when I saw what he was doing to me.

I would say to myself "what else can he do to me?" and he would always, always end up doing something that would affect me again and ruin my progress.

Because I was saying "I'm answering her and I don't care anymore" but he was saying "she answered me because she always comes back, I still have access to her"

And I ended up being humiliated, thinking he could have me anytime because I always unblocked him, always responded, I had no credibility left and he wasn't even sorry for what he was doing to me.

Don't come back, don't unblock, don't respond, even if you think he's over you, don't do it. Let more time pass, don't check if he called you, focus on yourself.

Every time I came back I felt sorry for humiliating myself for the 100th time, and even if he came back he didn't come back with any real change, he came back with a simple message as if nothing had happened.

Last updated on:2026-02-02T23:42:03+05:30