I honestly feel so discarded. we both made mistakes and instead of trying to repair things with me she went straight for accusing me of the worst and hurting her (even though she did things thats hurt me too) with no chance to talk about it, apologize, or repair what we have. to top it off this is the second time shes compared me to her ex under the guise of trying to explain to me how she wants to be treated. im not her ex and im not a therapist, im going to make mistakes. am i not allowed to make mistakes? she accused me of distrusting her and controlling her when that legit wasn't the case. a lot of this wasn't discussed until after her breaking up with me, so what's the point of even discussing it? she did a 180 personality twist, instead of being understanding she was quick with an attack. shes bi polar but does that mean I have to roll with the punches? that feels very unfair. she claimed she has secure attachment but textbook wise it's giving avoidant attachment. im so hurt I wasn't given a chance to apologize and repair what we had and she didn't even consider how id feel about all of it
Last updated on:2026-02-13T21:48:17+05:30
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avoidant like to blame partner like my ex we she ghost me I ghost her she mad lol
when she accused you of being controlling or distrustful, was that something she ever brought up before the breakup, or did it all come out after?
it was after. the reason for me being "controlling" was because I didn't want to meet her friend immediately, I wanted to wait
the accusations after the breakup, no space to explain or repair. i felt discarded too. like i was judged and sentenced without a conversation
i appreciate u saying this and sympathizing. a lot of the things she told me *after* the break up weren't mentioned before (to my knowledge). really hurts