So it's been nearly 3 months now NC and I'm not spiraling and I've accepted that bridge is burnt and that me and my ex are done. The only thing I still struggle with is this feeling of self blame and the breakup being my fault and what ifs of things I couldve done better. All I keep replaying is it being all my fault for ruining this beautiful thing in my life. People have told me this feeling is part of the growth process but I just have myself so much for it all. Any advice to overcome this feeling?
Last updated on:2026-02-10T19:37:38+05:30
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do the what-ifs come up more when you’re tired or alone, or are they constant? i’m curious when that voice gets the loudest for you.
Alone mainly
around month three NC i was “fine” but the self-blame was LOUD. i replayed every convo thinking i ruined something beautiful. took me forever to see i wasn’t the only one messing up.