Even more than I miss him, I miss his boys. I hope they don't hate me, and that if they ask about me, he doesn't try and make it look like any of this was my choice, because it wasn't. They're great kids, and I was privileged to be a part of their lives for the time I was. It's just really hard.
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do you think part of what hurts most is not having closure with them? like not being able to say goodbye in your own way
I think that has a lot to do with it, yes.
this kind of loss is layered. you’re grieving him, but you’re also grieving the role you had in those boys’ lives.
my ex and i ended, losing his daughter was what BROKE me. i could handle missing him. but missing her little “goodnight” texts? that wrecked me. i kept wondering if she thought i just disappeared on purpose. it’s such a specific kind of grief and people don’t talk about it enough
I bet, that sounds really hard. all you can do right now is move forward for your own sake though. dwelling on the sadness of how much you miss him and them isn't going to help you. you are so 100% allowed to miss them, but for your sake try to focus on other things? think about your time with them fondly and look back at them happily. all of your feelings are okay💜