I'm really really struggling at the moment. Basically I'm madly in love with my coworker but he had a wife and kids. Now we have talked many times about being intimate (this was before I knew he was married etc) and exchanged pictures. We did not go all the way because I found out he is married etc. I still madly love him and see him everyday in work. He is still super sweet, nice and kind to me. And sometimes does extra things for me. I would never act on it knowing he is taken but gosh I want to be with him so badly. I keep thinking about him, dreaming about him. The closeness of us working together just makes it so much harder. And if he was neutral it would be one thing. But he keeps stretching that boundary etc. Please what do I do. we are off work now for a week because of mid-term break but I cannot get my mind off him and want to text him!!!!
Last updated on:2026-02-15T20:45:04+05:30
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you feel like he’s keeping that boundary blurry on purpose? like he enjoys knowing you’re there? i had to ask myself that and it changed everything
i fell for a married coworker too. we never went all the way either, but the emotional stuff? the flirting, the “extra” attention? that was enough to hook me. seeing him every day kept the fantasy alive. i told myself i’d never cross the line, but my heart didn’t care it’s SUCH a mind game.
Hey my apologies for you’re situation that you’re put in because of not just you’re choices but someone else’s choices but I think texting him would only add to the stress that you don’t really need unless you wanna be known for being a home wreaker (which unfortunately is not a fun thing to be ) I think that would signal him to move forward with what he is doing but I mean that’s just my POV but stay safe and connected and maybe just hang out with family & friends also I’d try to see if my friends maybe know of someone who is single or not or just do one or a couple of the apps that are available to you for online dating just a thought 💭 anyways thanks for letting me rant on about this which is none of my business in anyway shape or form but I hope I could help you out please and thank you 💜💜
Thank you so much for your honest opinion and the advice! It means a lot 💖💖