I really really miss himmmmm. We are off for mid-term break now in work so I won't see him for a week or so. I know I can't have him because he is married with kids. How the hell do I stop thinking about me. He flat out told me he likes me and wants to sleep with me. I won't act on it but How do I keep my mind off texting him and thinking about him. I know people say 'get busy' but even then my minds slips back to thr thought. what do I do when those thoughts come up? how to make them disappear or the urge to reach out to be gone ? please help guys
Last updated on:2026-02-16T00:05:05+05:30
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you think part of what’s pulling you is the fantasy of “what if he chose me”? because for me, that story in my head was stronger than the reality
when the thoughts wouldn’t stop, i stopped trying to make them disappear. that made it worse.
i was in love with a married coworker too. he told me he wanted me, but never enough to actually choose me. the mid break was the WORST. my brain would not shut up you’re not crazy for missing him.
once you feel emotionally better.. and you will so with time.. with therapy. go to the gym dk things to feel bettee physically and sport. also beauty treatments. do a changé of life... maybe decoration... meet a new friend in a new activity...it will feel refreshing. then try to date a candidate even if just for fun of dating but so.eone that is even better than your ex at least in 1 aspect. you need a glow up and an upgrade
it makes sense that you feel this way. When someone tells you they like you, especially in a direct way, it can create a strong emotional pull. Missing him doesn’t make you weak or wrong, like it just means you formed an attachment.
bt atthe same time, you’re clear that he’s married and that you don’t want to act on it. That clarity is important. Instead of trying to “make the thoughts disappear,” it can help to accept that they’ll show up for a while. When they do, notice them without judging yourself — something like that ... “Okay, I’m thinking about him again.” Then gently shift your focus back to whatever you’re doing.
If the urge to text feels strong well my advice is to create distance that protects you: mute or hide the chat, remove quick access to his contact, or write what you want to say in a notes app instead of sending it. Urges peak and pass if you don’t act on them.