Its been a bit since my breakup and no matter how I try to move on I can't get over how she spoke to me at the end. Like the amount of anger, hate and disrespect from her plays side by side all the amazingly beautiful things she said to me and its like 2 different people and it just makes me cry and feel sick. Like ik a lot of people probably wonder how they got to a similar place but jesus. A lot of my friends and people have told me it's a blessing cause it should make it easier to move on and accept its over and make me not wanna go back after it all but for me it just makes me feel like such a shit bf to fuck the relationship up so much she felt okay with speaking to me that way. Ik I'm not responsible for how she feels or how she speaks to me but jesus it just feeds this self hatred hole in my body.
Last updated on:2026-02-18T03:22:03+05:30
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when you think about the way she spoke to you, does it feel like guilt… or does it feel like shame?
having all this feelings can be heavy, just know, it will takw time but you will heal. a lot happened good and made and to make peace with it is not easy, I'm proud of you to accept the facts of relationship and have the courage to share it with us. i hope you heal soon.
for me, i had to separate “i made mistakes” from “i deserved disrespect.” those aren’t the same thing. breakups can bring out anger and cruelty that say more about their pain than your worth.
that exactly it's happening to me now, I understand how awful it feels miss someone who was capable of treated like that after too much things together. it really difficult move on when u continue questioning how they treated u
the switch up at the end felt violent. like how are you the same person who once called me their safe place? i replayed those last words for months and blamed myself for all of it