Okay so right now I'm on holidays for a week so I can do no contact (even though its extremely hard) but somehow I only realised this now, that he is my coworker and I see him everyday Monday-Friday at work. We also dont just sit apart at work doing our stuff but we work together to get the job done. So I will be close to him again at least in the work space. I will have to talk to him, spend time with him (doing work) and message to clarify things etc. So does that mean I can still do no contact? I cant change jobs to avoid him but then if im so close every day how does no contact work then?
Last updated on:2026-02-20T19:16:42+05:30
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when you picture going back, what scares you more… the conversations you’ll have to have, or the feelings that might come rushing back? and do you feel like he respects boundaries at work?
im scared about being that close again. while no contact hurts at least im not near him to feel more you know? when face to face again, it will tear my heart apart. I dont think he respects boundaries at all. he has done that before
I think after our break up, our work are going to introduce new policies.. well thats one way to change systems I guess 🙈 lucky we have both been off work. but I go back monday!
no contact became “work-only contact.” nothing personal. no extra chats. no lingering. it wasn’t perfect but it protected my heart a little. the hard part wasn’t the job, it was managing the hope and the emotional pull
currently undergoing the same situation.Each and everytime i see him or smell his scent,i just become tensed.my heart races so fast and i have to act okay with it.With him,he is acting so nonchalant,he cant even say a simple hey.Breaks my heart to see what is currently happening and i am always regretting ,wishing things couldnt have reached this far.like ,can this grief pass ,i want my life back😭
ugh i dated a coworker too. we had to work side by side after the breakup. smiling in meetings, talking about tasks, acting “professional” while my heart was in pieces. it’s SUCH a mind game. i remember thinking, how am i supposed to heal when i see him every damn day? you’re not crazy for feeling stuck.