Feeling Like I'm Moving Backwards After a Dream of Him

was it the version of him you miss, or the feeling of all of you being together that hit the hardest?

ugh dreams like that mess me UP. i’ve woken up from those “everything’s okay again” dreams and for a split second i felt safe… then reality hit and it felt like breaking up all over again 😭 it really does feel like going backwards, even when you’re not.

​To My Dear Friend,
​I hear you, and I want you to know that your feelings are so incredibly valid. Dreams have a way of feeling so vivid and real, don't they? It’s as if for a few hours, you’re truly back in that warmth. If I had a dream like that about my ex and his daughter, I would feel exactly the same way.
​Please know you aren't alone. I have those "backward" days too—the ones where getting off the couch, showering, or even brushing my teeth feels like climbing a mountain. But I’ve learned that healing isn’t a straight line; it’s often one step forward and two steps back.
​I felt that same sense of hopelessness until I found a resource that changed things for me: Amy Chan’s Breakup Bootcamp. It’s just five minute videos a day for 50 days, but it’s been a lifeline. Since starting, I’ve slowly found the strength to cook healthy meals again and find peace through meditation.Two things that might help you today:
​The 20-Minute Rule: When that intense urge to reach out hits, remember that the peak intensity usually passes within 20 minutes. If you can breathe through those 20 minutes, you’ve won.
​Your Personal Affirmation: Whenever you find yourself romanticizing the past, try saying: "I know this is hard, but I will get through this." It helps anchor you back in the present.
​Every day you survive is another brick on your "yellow brick road" to healing. You are doing much better than you think you are. I believe in you so much, and I know you’re going to get through this.❤️