I've been doing better but a lot of times I catch myself comparing the two of us where we're at in life right now. I know it's like comparing her highlight reel to my behind the scenes but I don't know how to stop.
I feel so far behind and stuck in my ways even when I'm trying to change them.
Last updated on:2026-02-26T08:09:03+05:30
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you feel behind in life overall, or just behind her? sometimes it’s less about where we’re at and more about who we’re measuring ourselves against
when i catch myself comparing, i try to remind myself i don’t actually know the full picture. social media never shows the breakdowns.
i used to stalk my ex’s life updates and spiral. she looked like she was THRIVING and i was barely getting out of bed. comparing her highlight reel to my messy behind the scenes ruined my peace for months it made me feel so behind, like i’d failed at life. you’re not alone in that.
Life isn't a race. It's a journey. Sometimes you're on different paths and hers is a straight shot up the mountain while yours accounts for stopping off the trail and resting a bit. It doesn't take away from your experience or make hers better than yours. It's simply part of the story you're writing. But remember this. Comparison is the thief of joy. If you focus too much on what others have, are feeling or where they're at you'll neglect the most important person in your life. Yourself. Take time to make time for yourself in this trying time. Invest in small hobbies you had, excercise, devote yourself to yourself so that at the end of it despite the turmoil you can look back at your own hard work and healing.
in what way?
I just feel like she got a better life after replacing me and that I should be doing better. It's a weird feeling.