where do I start well I met my boyfriend last year in a public transportation and I thought he was very cute I took his number myself and we we had a great time we were talking we have chemistry, partners in crime, soon we began our romantic journey together, introduced ourselves to family and friends all this was going fine but soon he began to be insecure over the fact that he's broke and lives with his parents, I told this boy so many times that as long as we love each other we could grow together and I'll always love and support him, he attempted to breakup with me in February 11 this year but changed his mind and apologized, on Valentine's day he was complaining about not being able to afford a good gift for me and take me to an expensive place, we then fought over a little issue and then he seized the opportunity to break up with me citing his insecurities, I Begged him, I cried he insisted we should just be friends , I used to take care of this man, when he had a hard day I would give him back rubs and massages, I was sad whenever he was sad but he just abandoned me without thinking twice
it's been a week since the breakup and not one day has gone by without me soaking in tears, I'm struggling, I'm doing no contact , I'm trying my best, I hope I can survive this journey
Last updated on:2026-02-27T17:41:02+05:30
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when he kept trying to break up and saying he wasn’t enough, do you think he already felt one foot out the door?
a week is still SO fresh. of course you’re crying every day.
i dated someone who was insecure about money too. i kept telling him i didn’t care, that we could build together, but he just couldn’t believe he was enough. he pushed me away and called it “doing me a favor.” i remember begging too 😭 loving someone who can’t receive it is so painful.
my now ex of almost 14 years up and abandoned me less than a month ago. the reliving of the experience is intense and painful. I wish there were more words of comfort i could provide, but know you are not actually alone in feeling these feelings. we struggle every single day, but you should even start doing something as small as thanking yourself for getting out of bed this morning, and learning some self compassion out of this horrible situation is just a small step, maybe even the smallest of baby steps, to remembering your worth and not your self blame or heartache. you are not alone and thanks for waking up today friend. we will get thru this 💪 🙏
He used you as a mirror. First he saw your love and adoration for him and so he liked you. But then he started to hate the reflection, because it became infused with his own insecurities. And so he wanted to get rid of the mirror.
source: i've pushed my ex away for this same reason, probably.
did you ever regret pushing your ex away for that
@HappyBliss834 I would feel a deep relief in my body, but then quickly start feeling guilt/love/missing her and I'd contact her. Everytime that we would end up together for real, the tension came back and my body regretted it in days/weeks. Its not something you control. In hindsight I wished I had dealt with or spoken to her about the shame and fears that were behind my avoidance (fear of losing autonomy, fear of being engulfed, fear of hurting her and disappointing her etc). But thats not something easily fixed. I now believe (kinda) that it could never have worked...
so he wan break up cuz he not work and live with parent? he strees ? do u think he got mental health problem? do u see him sns do he follow lot girl or ? why i feel he avoidant