It's been 3 weeks since I found out he'd cheated on me and we broke up. I've gone through hell since and grief started its stages. in the last 3 days I've felt like reaching out just to ask if we have any future. I'm confused but it feels like I'm willing to forgive, obviously because I love him so deeply, but just when I thought I was starting to feel stronger this ,'forgiveness feeling' started. Don't know what to do.
Last updated on:2026-03-01T03:43:02+05:30
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do you feel ready to forgive what he actually did… or are you scared of closing the door for good?
Cheating is a decision that has long term consequences he didn't bother even thinking of. Not everyone deserves your forgiveness. Sometimes you just need to let things go not because you forgive them but because you deserve freedom from carrying that hurt. You do it for you. A person that truly loves and cares for you would NEVER put you in that situation and embarrass and hurt you like that. Stay strong and remember there's so many people to meet and love in this world. There's so many people ready to love you and appreciate you for exactly what you are, all you need to do is make space for that. ❤️ Sending love and healing energy.
that hurts me too three weeks after i found out he cheated, i was a MESS. i swore i’d never speak to him again… then suddenly i was romanticizing forgiving him because i loved him that much. it felt like strength disappeared overnight. it didn’t. it was just grief shifting shapes
He is an adult he had reasons to do that and he did it knowingly. Girl do not get tempted, it never gets any better. He will do it again and again. Let him learn his mistake by losing you. you deserve better xoxo
You'll never be able to trust them again. That's what I told myself when I felt weak and felt like reaching out again.
can i ask, are they still dating with the girl he cheated with
I have no idea as NC, she seemed really unhappy about situation when she found out about me
It never goes back to what it was. You'll question yourself, question him and you end up on a slippery slope you don't deserve to be on. Don't settle for someone who treats you like second best when you should be focusing on treating yourself like you're in first place. He made his choices. They weren't your fault. Forgiving him is fine. But allowing yourself to be treated like that twice would break your heart. Focus on yourself in this time.