Sometimes your subconscious can be so cruel...I had another dream last night about my ex and his boys, and it's actually really upset me. I don't understand how anyone can let someone get close to their children and then not only end things abruptly, but also have someone else lined up who ALSO got close to his children.
I don't miss him, not now I know what he's really like, but I miss them so much. They're good kids and don't deserve to be made to feel confused like I'm sure they do.
Last updated on:2026-03-01T06:52:28+05:30
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you think the dream is more about missing the kids, or about how disposable he made you feel in that whole situation?
A mixture of both I suppose. I miss them terribly but I do also feel used and cheap, like none of it meant anything.
some people don’t think long term about who they bring around their children. it’s about what feels good to them in the moment.
I was seeing him for several months before I met his children, so I trusted that it must mean something if he was letting me into their lives. Maybe I was foolish and naive, but I was also in love.
i dated someone with kids too, and losing them was honestly worse than losing him. i didn’t miss him once i saw who he really was, but those little faces? gah. that attachment is real. you don’t just switch that of
That's exactly it. I can't just turn that off, I miss them so much.
not only does it sound like he was cruel to you, but to do that to his children is just as cruel. maybe as they get older, they will realize how toxic he truly is. im sorry you're going thru this friend 🧡 keep your head up, youre not alone in the abandonment either 💓
They both have autism as well which seems even crueler, it's like he uses them as leverage to get close to women. I actually feel disgusted about him and his behaviour now, but my heart goes out to them, they're innocent in all of this mess.