Today I realized that I needed clarity on something.
I didn't break no contact to rekindle anything, I just wanted an answer to a question I had for him.
I'm not tying my growth to his answers but the fact that I asked him a question that will ease my mind whether or not he tells the truth will be good for me and my mental health.
I know I shouldn't have texted but I promise you, it's not to get back together at all.
dude is doing just fine without me and so am I.
Last updated on:2026-03-02T22:09:35+05:30
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grief comes and goes. you do you and as long as you're still healing, no matter his reply, don't be too hard on yourself and keep moving forward.
thank you
be honest with yourself for a sec… if he doesn’t reply, or if the answer isn’t what you hoped, will you still feel at peace?
if he didn't reply, I'd have moved on with my day because the fact that I sent the question made me feel relieved a bit.
He eventually responded so I got my answer now
i broke no contact “just for clarity.” told myself it wasn’t about getting back together, just needing one answer so my brain would chill. sometimes it wasn’t even about him. it was about me wanting to feel settled inside. so yeah, i get it
exactly 💯
he responded though and I've gotten my answer
I'm sorry! my mind often plays tricks on me too - coming up with different questions to ask, things to say, every 5 minutes that seem urgent and defensible. it often backfires for me but hopefully not for you!
hopefully but the good thing is that even though it backfires, you learn from it
same. my mind can think od so many good reasons to connect. 'for her' haha. im trying to make it a rule: if i feel an urge, i wont send anything. 11 days NC, not getting easier yet.
@SnapBuzz123 doesn't get easier, I've relapsed now but I'll start all over from tomorrow.
it's just best not to pour in energy where it's not needed