the reason we broke up was because he claimed his mental health was horrible and he was suffering, everything with our relationship was perfect and we communicated well and rarely had serious arguments and he basically worshiped me, but one day when I was in Japan he cut me off slowly, he stopped calling me even when I begged him for just a minute, he slowly stopped texting me or updating me about his day, he was online ignoring me more than he was texting me, and he called his friends every night to ‘study’ and I used to beg him for answers as to why he became so cold all of a sudden and he claims it was becuase he was mentally exhausted, dealing with the grief of his grandfather, under an insane amount of school pressure from both his parents and in general needing to pass every class when he barely went to school last year so he needs to catch up, and I’m trying to believe that, that is the reason for all of this but he is rude to me and he has a go at me for not texting him or if I go online, and when I asked him if I could see him on his birthday and give him his gifts he said idk and coldy shrugged it off and he made a social media account that he swore he wouldn’t even consider making and has not brought it up to me and declined my request to follow it multiple times, and when we broke up it was due to the fact I had to reach out to his parents just to get him to talk to me becuase for days straight the only answer I got from him was idk and after reaching out he explained he was hurting me and the the only way he could stop hurting me was by just cutting things off or until he got better, but I told him it was unfair on me that all of his actions now have to effect me when I did nothing wrong but try to support him and he just said he is sorry and understands I’m very hurt and now my parents hate him because of how he treated me and he says the relationship is beyond repair so it’s better to just end things now to save me from being hurt. when we were dating he told me he swears on his life he will never give up on us because he felt so safe being with me and I improved his mental health beyond what he could have ever imagined and he told me when he asked me out it was the last time I would ever be asked out so he wanted to make it special. I don’t know how to feel about the situation because during the time he was pushing me away he would repost tiktoks about saying he can never lose me and he’s madly in love with everything about me and He says being with me is his home, but he treats me and ends things so dryly and even when I told him it hurts that he would just cut things off he said it hurts him a lot to but I just don’t know what to belive becuase it’s such a confusing and sudden situation and I do belive his mental health is somewhat to blame for this but I can’t excuse all of it for that surely?
Last updated on:2026-03-26T12:58:11+05:30
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do you feel like he’s protecting you by ending it, or does it feel like he checked out and is using everything else to explain it?
I want to belive he’s protecting me and that he wouldn’t end things for another reason because of how Inlove with me he was but he acts like he doesn’t care or even like me anymore so it feels like it’s him checking out all of a sudden and trying to claim it’s to protect me
i know you want to believe it’s just his mental health, i did that too.
this is so confusing to sit in… i dated someone who said he loved me so much, posted things about me, then slowly went cold just like this. i kept trying to match his words with his actions and it drove me crazy.
I feel like we just have to make peace with the fact that if they thought it was worth fighting for they would even if it is their mental health that's the issue. They would want to get better for us and work on a solutions to save what we have.
yes I’m trying to believe that he is doing this all for the sake of his mental health and mine becuase he knows he’s hurting me, but I’m struggling to think that the same person who used to beg me after each date to not go home and break up wit him or leave him or loose feelings at all is the same person who coldly just gave up one day and ended things, because we were together when he went through a really bad time and couldn’t get out of bed for days and I helped him get better like I was constantly there for him and went out of my way to support him and comfort him and he knows I’d always do that I just don’t know why this time he let it become the end of our relationship? and he never once explained to me fully as to what was going on like I only found out the reasons he was strugling was by stalking his reposts and thinking about everything he’s recently brought up like all he’s said to me about it was school work pressure, and he didn’t feel himself and was sh and contemplating khs and his parents knew and his friends but I was the last one told, so I am trying to make peice with it I just have to many questions
@GlowDroid737 yeah clarity is the hardest without closure. I am in this very situation except he didn't tell me his going through this I only found out after. But I can empathize with you, I guess we have to find our peace and make peace with this situation
Wow, this sounds similar to my situation. I even got the future talks and the marriage proposals and the growing old together. I feel like for us it is more difficult because we hold onto the hope of what it could have been and also the fact that we are loosing ourselves initiating with someone that clearly doesn't really want to fight for this shows we need to gain our self respect back