its been a week of no contact. I still cry and think of him and still want us to work it out. this is our second break up in the past 2 years of dating. the way his message was it seems like a real goodbye. I dont know if i should message him about my belongings now or if i should hold off until he reaches out? like nobody is perfect, some days we might disagree or get upset over little things but I don't see how it could end over this and then say u dont feel safe because of it. also he has an issue with my mother and said he doesnt feel comfortable being around her. she got upset that he didnt say goodbye and called him a pig for it which okay isnt right but I didnt have boundaries and didnt know how to speak up about it back then. but im sorry u shouldnt tell my mother how I should live my life and get into an argument about it. he cant forgive her and said this was a big issue why hes leaving yhis time. I dont know if there is a way to fix this? he also says we aren't a good fit anymore and not compatible. im sorry u made me wait 4 months, I was excited to see u and u would always say no not yet, im not happy with us, I cant afford to support u for a weekend, and when he finally decides to invite me I just wasnt excited and convos started to get dry and drifting. can this be fixed? what do I do?
Last updated on:2026-03-25T20:44:04+05:30
Comments (4)
you feel like you want to fix this because it’s truly right, or because losing him right now feels too heavy to sit with?
i’m gonna be real, when someone says they don’t feel safe and calls it incompatibility, i had to take that as my answer even when i didn’t want to
i’ve been in that “second breakup but it feels final” place and still waking up hoping they text… that silence messes with your head so much
my dear when someone truly loves u they have no excuses and they dont look for reasons to leave i used to forgive and reconcile many times because i loved him so much but at the time all i cared about was being with him not my own pain i did everything for him we were together for two years yet he left me for a woman he met just a month ago because i kept following him and choosing him he thought i had no other options and he felt like a hero while i was begging him but now enough is enough u cannot be the only one wanting it and the only one trying u must decide ur age wont wait for u ur mother took nine months to build ur heart so dont let it be broken over and over by the same thing give ur heart the respect it deserves yes at first it feels like u r dying but u r choosing ur peace if u had married this man he would have left u over the smallest thing remember a father for ur children should be a real man a right person corrects ur mistakes they dont leave u just because u made one dont blame urself u r a gem the right person will come and show u that not everyone is the same