I want to message him so badly. I'm not sure when to reach out about getting my belongings? some days I feel like he just needs space but other days I feel like its over over. yes, he did say we were drifting, convos dying, repairs havent been fixed, but deep down idk. its been 9 days. I just wanna call him but deep down I know he wont answer.
Last updated on:2026-03-30T18:17:10+05:30
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you want to reach out for your belongings, or is it more that you just miss him and want a reason to talk to him
more of a reason to talk. I did message him just for him to say leave me alone. I'll reach out when I'm ready/able to. so, now I'll just focus on myself and just start enjoying this beautiful weather.
i know this feeling way too well. i remember staring at my phone for days wanting to call him just to hear his voice, even knowing he wouldn’t pick up, that pull is so real
yeah, it sucks. I failed and messaged him. he did answer but only to say leave me alone, I'll talk to you when I'm ready/able to. that hurt how he switched on me in such little time.
I’m on 1,5 months from the breakup and 22 days in no contact. you can wait. but if you feel the need to reach out, then do it, but only if the answer doesnt matter
I failed. but at least he answered but only to say leave me alone and I'll reach out when I'm ready/able to. he makes me feel like a dog ( stay and wait I'llbe back soon). didn't expect a nasty reply but I guess he really wasnt the one for me.
My advice: wait. Extend the No Contact to two weeks, then see what you are feeling. Nine days is too short. You are still in the middle of the hurt. In the meantime, go on with your life, date yourself, become the confident person you were before you knew this guy.
I failed. I reached out just to get a nasty leave me alone message. I will just wait for him to reach out. you are right, its time to find myself again.
do you think there is a chance things would be better? If not, it will just be another painful cycle 😢
this is our second break up. I want it to work. I dont mind taking it slow rebuilding and trying. but I dont think the issue with my mom will change even if I set boundaries. so Idk. family or a boy who comes and goes ??
@Chrissy15 it’s a tough decision… but I think family and peace come first
Do you want to reach out only to get your belongings or are you hoping to reconnect with him?
I honestly dont want to get my stuff. its more to reconnect. cause once he tells me to come get my stuff its over over. it would break me more.