he ended things with me yesterday and i’m still trying to process it. to me it felt completely out of nowhere he always said he’d never leave and that i was the first girl he ever truly loved. then suddenly he said he lost feelings hit his limit and isn’t made for this told me i’d find someone better and refused to even pick up my calls for a proper explanation.
later he admitted he’d been thinking about breaking up for 20 days but waited because of his exams. what hurts more is that during those same days he kept reassuring me everything was fine we even had plans to meet. he also said he was treating me badly on purpose so it would be “easier” for me when he left… but it just made me spiral harder feeling ignored and unimportant.
i panicked. i called him multiple times because i was scared of losing him and now i can’t stop blaming myself wondering if i hadn’t done that maybe we’d still be together today. after the breakup i tried to act strong blocked him for a bit then broke down and called him again just to hear his voice. he told me to accept it said “it is what it is” and when i begged to see him one last time he told me to have some self respect.
i have good friends around me and i’m grateful but i feel so embarrassed and lost. i moved countries for him gave everything i had and it still wasn’t enough. we were each other’s first everything and right now i don’t even know how i’m supposed to trust someone again after being loved like that and then left like i meant nothing.
Last updated on:2026-04-02T03:49:39+05:30
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I was in the same boat. First relationship, promised me the world, 3 years later discarded me. Its a type of pain I dont want to ever experience again. I say this with love, and its not what you want to hear, but let it go. Let yourself heal, dont contact him. It takes time but you will get through this and heal. Someone is out there for you that will love you as much as you care and love them.
First love is the absolute worst loss. Its a death in a way. Your heart won't be the same. You'll be more weary of giving it away again after being discarded like garbage. I went thru the same thing. The dismissive answers. The stupid idiotic sayings like "it is what it is" Fuck that! How dare you treat me like you never cared for me or told me I was your everything!
For me, even after 30 years, it still hurts. I had a chance to confront him a few years back, but I stared at him and realized he wasn't worth my time now. He couldn't give me 15 min of real truth! Screw that loser and know....the answers you will seek, he doesn't have. He is a selfish self centered bastard who deserves nothing good. let him rot and tell yourself....
The ANSWER IS THAT THERE IS NO ANSWERS SOMETIMES IN LIFE
But your going to be ok.
you feel like deep down he had already checked out before those last few days, even before the calls started?
This might be the big fail you need to enlighten yourself on what you need to do to become a more confident soul for the REAL love of your life you WILL meet in the future. You will do the work, non, to ready for him. In time, you will look back on this experience as a bullet you dodged, and you will be grateful for it. Pick up your pieces and slowly walk on. This is not the real you. This is the side of you, you will improve and happily, confidently, contentedly carry on.
Don't insist anymore, let him go. And you, you're going to have to be so strong to face what comes next, but don't worry, it's just a process, not the end.
This too shall pass
hat exact panic where you keep calling because you feel them slipping away in real time. i blamed myself for MONTHS after, thinking if i had just stayed calm maybe he would’ve stayed too
I begged my ex to stay so we can fix it together. But she was already emotionally detached from it all of a sudden. I figured out she has been texting someone else romantically, and she moved on to spending online time with him 4 days later after she discarded me.
I had something similar happen to me and it was the absolute hardest obstacle I've ever had to move forward with. the abandonment and betrayal and the fact that they secretly had us to grieve the loss of the relationship while they were plotting their exit strategy. its more painful than anything. you are entitled to feel anything and everything youre feeling rn. keep your head up and keep moving forward. we are all on this app because we are struggling, lean on people here too. know you're not alone friend 🧡
i’m so proud of you!