I am needing to not talk to 2 people. My ex and our mutual friend who is also a fuck buddy of mine. That friend has really shown up for me when my ex formed a clique with my best friend (at the time) and another friend and the 3 of them started excluding me. He was the only friend with social power in our group who did. But recently I shared with him that I think my ex was gaslighting me and that i would like him to not invite her to his party. He told me he believed me and was so mad and then 2 days later called me on my lunch break and told me he was inviting my ex to the party. He also had said some things to me that felt pretty invalidating of my feelings.
I know I should have just set a boundary and taken a step back but I got angry and called him a hypocrite (which he admitted he was) and just kept pushing until I pressured him into telling me he was wrong. it was shitty. I know it was wrong. when I cooled down i apologized and admitted it wasn't okay. But I don't think it's wrong of me to step back from my relationship with him and from being in contact with him. What do you think?
Last updated on:2026-04-07T06:28:06+05:30
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do you feel like he actually respects you when it matters, or only when it’s easy for him?
He was in a difficult situation so it was hard a lot but he would stop showing up when it got more challenging.
at one point before my ex and me broke up. my ex best friend was avoiding me because I got mad at them for excluding me and this friend and my ex both hid from me that they were going to a party with my ex best friend. My friend i'm not talking to now was one of the organizer of the party too! that was my first red flag
honestly i think stepping back is fair, i had to do the same when someone kept crossing my lines even after i explained it. distance was the only thing that gave me my head back.
I think that's really true. I finally blocked him and deleted his number and I feel like I can think again. I'm in therapy and taking a course on gaslighting so I think if I just focus on myself it will get better
when the one person who had your back suddenly switches up it hits just as hard as the breakup itself. i had a friend like that and it made me feel small all over again
yes. me too! I think I'm doing worse than I was then. cause for the break up he was there to hold me and support me