How i stayed chill meeting my ex after 90 days
wow, tomorrow is 3 months and about 7 months since we split. I am so proud of myself. I ran into my ex at pride while on a date with a new person I really like. I had warned my date I would probably
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Why it’s time to stop feeding my thoughts of him
I realized the other day that I'm 70 days in and still think of my ex and the community I left behind every single day. Realizing this i had the thought. "I'm giving them so much energy they don't des
Did i break no contact? my mixed feelings about reaching out
I technically broke not contact but I'm not counting it because it was more functional. I reached out to my ex and ex friend to see if they would be at our shared friends party. Something that I now
Why this city reminds me of her
This whole city makes me think of her. Going to the river, getting ice cream, going for a walk. She is written into these places in my memory, in my body. I wonder how long it will take till the memor
Why no contact feels like a win
I have committed to a year of no contact. In 12 days it will be a sixth of a year. It might not be much but it is something. Looking ahead it feels good to know I have made that commitment. I am angry
Why am i missing her so much?
I feel that ach today. I know this space is what I need. I'm doing so much better without her, but what we had felt really special. I miss the easy and safety we had before everything went sideways
Why i had to cut ties with friends after my breakup
I decided I needed to take space from one of my closest friends and the whole community him and my ex are a part of because he was insisting on not just inviting my ex to his party but also planning i
30 days of no contact: my journey to healing
I did it! I remember when going a day was more that I could do. Going not contact was the best decision I could have made for my mental health at this time. Does it still suck? Absolutely! Every day.
Is day 23 of no contact normal?
Day 23 of no contact and it feels like I'm detoxing. Waves of grief, of loneliness, of missing her and our shared community. It's painful but it feels good, it feels honest. I'm not pendulating betwee
Why did my ex drop off gifts? conflicting feelings explained
My ex dropped off a bag with something of mine i asked her to return and in the bag was a pair of earrings as an early birthday present with a birthday blessing. The earrings are totally my taste too.
Why do i feel sad after my breakup?
As the anger fades I miss the time before everything went bad. The relationship seemed so good for so long. Looking back it seems like a made up fantasy. I don't even know what was real anymore. I don
Why seeing my ex's photos didn't hurt as much
I was looking for a picture on my phone and ran across some pictures of my ex. I noticed it's not as hard to see her face as it was
10 days of moving on: my journey after the breakup
I'm proud of myself. I did have a slip up that I'm deciding not to count after I was a bit drunk (which i almost never am) where I texted my ex at like 1am. I am pretty sure she was asleep and before
Why did he leave me a book after our fallout?
i have a friend who i went no contact with because he showed up in ways that made me not trust that he could be in friendship with both me and my ex (who navigated our shared community so poorly after
Missing my friend and ex: learning to heal
I miss my ex and my friend I had to go no contact with. But I know that this phase is important. Not texting them is giving me space to feel my feelings without adding to them. i can't keep reopening
What i learned on my first day of heartbreak
I feel like if I can just get through this first week it will be okay after that
Why i finally ended it: finding closure after heartbreak
I broke no contact because there was a little more closure that was needed. But it's finally done. I reset the count. I plan to take the next 6 months to a year or space. My heart hurt like hell but I
When caring actions don’t match words: my breakup story
in the past I think my ex did a decent job at apologizing, but after I got angry with her for some significant lack of communication her ability to give a real apology in which she took any real respo
How i learned to feel proud of myself after heartbreak
I was feeling pretty messy and dysfunctional but i think I have set the boundaries I need to. I know what I need to work on and I am taking the steps I need to make that healing happen. I know this is
Does reaching out to an ex count as a relapse?
I reached out to my ex today, but my impulse is to not count it as a relapse because I felt clear and grounded in alignment with my commitment to take space to care for myself. It was about stating th
Why i relapsed after the breakup
I reached out. I knew i shouldn't. I wanted him to feel that I was hurting. I wanted him to feel remorseful. I know this isn't the way
What to do when tensions rise in a breakup
how if power operating in your dynamic? what are the unmet needs and obligations that have arisen due to harm? what are thing that are frictions or tentions or disagreements that you are having? Ho
Day 3: finding comfort in shared struggles
Thank you everyone who has commented. I is helpful to not be alone in this and to hear from others who are struggling and imperfect
Am i handling my breakup well?
My therapist says I was being cursive with my best friend when I tried to convince him to not invite my ex to his party. I think it's true. I also don't think he was showing up well either, but that's
Why can't i expect loyalty from my best friend?
My closest friend and sometimes fuck buddy decided to have my ex at his HRT anniversary party and that that was more important than having me there because of their creative collaboration. which... he
How blocking helps me move on from heartbreak
I get the impulse to check my phone every time I feel the hurt and the sadness. I want my friend to apologize to promise to do better. I want my ex to finally take accountability. I blocked them both
Feeling betrayed: my struggle with friendship after a breakup
I am needing to not talk to 2 people. My ex and our mutual friend who is also a fuck buddy of mine. That friend has really shown up for me when my ex formed a clique with my best friend (at the time)