My ex dropped off a bag with something of mine i asked her to return and in the bag was a pair of earrings as an early birthday present with a birthday blessing. The earrings are totally my taste too. It brought up so many feelings, it made me miss her, it made me feel like she still loves me... but at the end of the day she still hasn't appoligized for the ways she hurt me so no matter how thoughtful her gifts are at the end of the day I know nothing has really changed.
Last updated on:2026-05-14T08:33:08+05:30
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i actually think you seeing through it is a huge thing. i had an ex who’d reach out with sweet gestures but never once fully owned what they did, and i stayed hoping the actions meant change.
I was there for a while with her before I realized that I don't like how she has been treating me
did getting the earrings make you want to reach back out to her again or did it mostly reopen the wound a little?
it was soothing in some ways. it's a gesture that let's me know she still cares. it's also painful, it makes me miss her and it makes me want to push her away. I've considered thanking her or telling her that the gift is nice but an apology would be better. It didn't exactly reopen the wound. it hurts, but I think that's just grieving that needed to be done one way or another. In the end I know it's just an opportunity to maintain my boundary and not engage
I’m really sorry to hear that. I’ve experienced that feeling as well and how I saw it was a parting gift. I appreciated the thought, but also understood that no amount of material things would be equal to the apology I needed. It’s hard but I promise it will be okay.
thank you. I know that's true. I don't feel as torn as I once did. I love her, but I'm not going to get back together with someone when I don't like the way she has been treating me. it hurts, but that only makes sense. I was in love with her for 4 years