I miss my ex and my friend I had to go no contact with. But I know that this phase is important. Not texting them is giving me space to feel my feelings without adding to them. i can't keep reopening the wound if I want it to heal
Last updated on:2026-04-29T13:53:01+05:30
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when the urge hits, what usually makes you want to reach out, is it loneliness or something specific that reminds you of them?
a lot of the time I don't even want to reach out I'm just sad and miss what we had before it all fell apart.
when I do want to reach out it's because I want to be heard, because being heard feels like the only thing that would allow me to feel safe in the relationship. But there have been so many opportunities for them to hear me and to show up differently. i have enough information to know I made the right decision
i was treating no contact like something i protect, not something i fight. every time i didn’t text, i counted it as a small win and over time it got quieter in my head
that's really sweet
i had to cut off both my ex and someone who used to be my safe place and it felt like losing two people at once. i kept wanting to text just to feel close again, but it only reset the pain every time
I am so sorry that happened. it's so so painful. I agree, I just need to give it time. I read something recently that said something like-- if in a connection it feels difficult to be the version of yourself that aligns with your values that relationship is too costly to stay in your life-- This is helping to come back to.