I broke no contact because there was a little more closure that was needed. But it's finally done. I reset the count. I plan to take the next 6 months to a year or space. My heart hurt like hell but I feel free
Last updated on:2026-04-22T10:17:24+05:30
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i understand. trying to form a platonic friendship with my ex too
@caramel That really sucks. I'm sorry this happened to you. you deserve better. I encourage you to get clear on what you need to say to him to take care of yourself regardless of how he responds and just be really clear about your boundaries. it seems like he did not have your back. I hope you can find someone who does
what was that final thing you needed to hear or say that made it finally feel done?
@myheart I needed to hold both the ways I cared for him along side the ways I felt hurt by him
giving yourself that 6 months to a year of space sounds solid. the freedom you’re feeling right now, protect that, don’t let little urges pull you back in
i broke no contact once too thinking i just needed that last bit of closure. it hurt all over again but yeah… there was also this weird sense of peace after like okay, NOW it’s really done
May I know how did that go?
I'm glad it happened. I was able to get to a place of more care. It dragged on too long which was painful, but I was able to notice when that was the case and communicate and we agreed to initiate no contact again. I blocked them but he knew it was coming and understood it was for the best right now
@manicfaedreamgoblin I'm contemplating if I should do the same. I broke up 4 months ago. we did it mutually due to differences. but lowkey I thought he would come back. but after the break up, I found out he was actually emotionally hurting bcs of his past relationship. that made me sort of disrespected at the same time I'm sorry he had go through that. I wish he would have told me. Now just within 3 months he moved on with a new gf. I'm assuming that's the same girl he was hurting. I feel so confused and hurt. I felt he just throw me away just like that.
but if I ask.. im scared of 2 possibilities. what if he is annoyed, cold or rude.
2. it wouldn't allow him to come back if I call him out like that