i have a friend who i went no contact with because he showed up in ways that made me not trust that he could be in friendship with both me and my ex (who navigated our shared community so poorly after I introduced her to the community that i felt really excluded).
We had talked about doing a closing, but he decided he couldn't. But he still had to get some stuff he was storing in my garage so he coordinated with my house to do so and left me a letter, a book, and some cookies he baked. I felt a little weird about. me and my friend ate 2 of the cookies, but I don't even know if I want them. It feels kinda weird eating them even though they are tasty.
But the thing i feel the most weird about is the book he left me. it's called Eternal Echoes: Exploring our yearning to belong.
inside he wrote I hope you know you always belong.
Last updated on:2026-04-30T13:37:36+05:30
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i’d trust that weird feeling. i didn’t keep stuff like that, it felt like holding onto a version of her that didn’t feel safe anymore.
what part is hitting you more right now, the message in the book or the fact that he still found a way to reach you after you set that boundary?
it didn't really surprise me that he would leave me something so that didn't especially bother me. But that he would leave me a book about belonging when I feel like he is contributing to my lack of belonging feels a bit insensitive
hi i’ve had someone break no contact like that, leaving “thoughtful” things that just stirred everything back up