I decided I needed to take space from one of my closest friends and the whole community him and my ex are a part of because he was insisting on not just inviting my ex to his party but also planning it with her.
It appears that as a result the party was delayed. It was supposed to be about a month ago but I accidentally stumbled upon an invitation to the party for the first weekend in June. I'm so glad I went no contact. I am in such a better place than I was, but this is still really hurting. I also feel some shame about how I acted. I think the decisions I made were sound but the way I went about it was not great.
So all those feelings are coming up and I wonder if there's any going back to those people or if that chapter with them is just over. As I was leaving I cared less about what bridges I was burning because they weren't caring for me in ways I needed anyway.
Would I even want to go back? I don't know... but I do know reading that invite was painful and it's stirring the old wounds around belonging and being chosen.
Last updated on:2026-05-30T17:39:11+05:30
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i had to step away from a whole friend group after my breakup too, and seeing them carry on without me reopened wounds i thought were finally closing. that pain around belonging and being chosen is SO real