Feeling lost after she blocked me – what now?

(This is what I had to send in to the police so names will be missing)

I got added by a girl back in January on around the 3rd and her name is _____. We got talking and everything seemed great and we seemed to hit it off. Around January 13th she told me she was going to her friends and then she told me about a week later that she wanted to tell me somthing and that she was scared to tell me. I told her to just say it to me and she told me in what I remember, "You remember how I went to my friends a little while back?" I told her "yeah" she then told me that she went to a guys house and I found out about a guy that goes by (James). She calls him James. This "James" guy as I found out has a daughter and son who I remember as about 3-4 and 8-9. I since the day have been thinking about telling someone and I wish I did. I told her to tell the police or block him and be done with him, and she told me she blocked him and wanted me not him. Back in February we got together and everything seemed to be going fine but then like 3 days after we got together, we were on call and she told me "Let me call you right back". I wait roughly 20 minutes and she calls me back and shes dressed to leave and go somewhere. I ask her, "whats going on", she told me, "So your going to be mad at me but remember James?", I said "Yeah what about him", she then told me, "I never blocked him and hes on his way to pick me up" she started to say how she was "just" going to drive around with him and that he borrowed his friends truck to go pick her up. I told her that he wanted more than sex and she kept telling me he didnt and that they were just friends. I kept telling her she better not go and she eventually told me that she would ask what they would be doing. She told me that he did in fact want sex and was saying stuff like, "Your mine", "You cant do this to me", and some other stuff that was towards breaking us up and that she was his and a bunch of other disgusting things. It was good because she blocked him. Yesterday on April 3rd we were playing fortnite and she was mentioning how she hasnt been calling me as much, which I have been upset about. She has been going to her friend Cass's house and been going everyday. I got mad at the fact she seemed to be ignoring me most of the time. Then she starting talking about how when she does date guys after she spends too much time with them she finds ways to hate on them and thats what shes been doing to me. She also mentioned how she hasnt called any other guy and then she told me she could show me her call history then said "wait maybe I shouldnt" then I asked "why shouldnt you show me it" she told me, "I unblocked James to see how hes doing", I started to get upset and asked why she would do such a thing. And she told me becuase she wanted to know how he was doing and I just kept quiet. She then told me how she tried to call him then I saw the yellow light that flashes her face when she goes on snapchat and she said 5 seconds later, "Hold on I will call you back in a little bit, love you bye" and then I said "uh okay, love you bye". About 10 minutes later I texted and asked if she called him and thats when the screenshots happened that are attached to this. She got upset about me assuming she called him and started to almost ignore me. I then shut off my phone for a few hours and then found out she blocked me on everything. I attempted to call her and she didnt pick up and then I went to my friends to stay the night. I was showing my friend a video and then there it was her trying to call me, I let the first few ring and then declined one or two after that because I was upset. She then called me again and I picked up and I said "Hello" and she said nothing and hung up. I texted asking why she blocked me to then unblock me and call and say nothing when I answered. I texted her saying I am at my friends I would be home tomorrow as in today April 4th. She then blocked me on everything again after unblocking me. I texted her saying she had until 12pm to call me and until midnight to text me or she could lose my number for good and she picked up around 9:46am this morning. I picked up and it was her and it felt awkward and I said "I didnt think this far" and she just looked into her phone the entire time and eventually told me that shes going to go and I asked, "For good?" She said yup and then we hung up. I then texted asking what did I even do? What changed her mind about me? And then I tried to tell her mom about this James guy but she didnt seem to believe me and was just saying she would watch her location so I told one of my good friends about what happend and he agreed I should tell the police so then I called at about 11am ish and told the officers and then eventually the deputy about it. Also in February she was sharing her screen and accidentally showed me a photo of James spooning her while they were in bed with a blanket on and the photo was an overhead shot with the flash on, James is a black guy I think he was balding and he was asleep in the photo. I am now all cut communication with her and her mom and I will not answer anything. her mom told me that she lies a lot and its hard to find out whats real or not. I told her mom yesterday about this and she didnt seem to really believe what I was saying. I am 16 and she is half a year younger so shes 15. James is also a 27 years old and that disgusted me. I am now 4 days later trying to find a way to stop my stomach from feeling uneasy all the time. I try to distract myself but my stomach still aches. I may be disgusted with her actions but I do love her. What did you guys do that helped with a breakup? Also did I do the right thing by telling the police when she trusted me with this information of this guy? I used to be on call with her ALL the time so now what do I do now that we are not anymore?

Last updated on:2026-04-07T12:54:03+05:30