Why focusing on your ex is holding you back

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This breakup and your emotional trauma, you MUST FIGHT to come out from under this. And you do this by NOT OBSESSING ABOUT THE EX, but by FOCUSING ON YOURSELF.

If you keep wallowing, keep thinking only of them, you will get mired in the sorrow.
And it will take forever for you to heal and come out mentally healthy and confident on the other side.

Tip: the moment your thoughts go to the ex, STOP.
Drop the phone.
Get up.
Get busy living YOUR LIFE.

This is a battle, peeps.
If you just sit there impassively wallowing, you will get nowhere.
FIGHT TO BE YOU AGAIN.
This should be your NUMBER ONE GOAL right now.
Drop thoughts of them.
Pick up thoughts about yourself and what you have learned by this relationship and what you need to BETTER YOURSELF for the next true love of your life.

Why focusing on your ex is holding you back

Last updated on:2026-04-13T18:50:06+05:30

Comments (4)

blondebitch
blondebitch 38 mins ago

when your mind goes back to them, does it feel like you’re trying to hold onto something or more like you just can’t turn it off no matter what you do?

Sqweed69
Sqweed69 6 hrs ago

forcing myself to “fight it” all the time made me more exhausted

DaringDD
DaringDD 8 hrs ago

i get where this is coming from… after my breakup i kept looping the same thoughts about her all day and it made everything heavier. it felt like i was stuck in my own head and couldn’t breathe without thinking of her 💔

Marlowen821
Marlowen821 10 hrs ago

bambi , i just loove your post. you give me courage i swear... we deserve so much more , may god be with us in this battle. hope we'll have a better destiny. and next days will be easier for our hearts , cuz we just keep trying