I’ve spent the past week taking care of a sick and very scared cat from a shelter, so I haven’t had any time at all to feel or think. I was grateful for that, and part of me thought that maybe things were finally starting to get better.
But now that things with the cat have settled down, all the feelings came back. I’m in exactly the same bad place as before, and it feels like I’m never going to move forward.
I just want to text him. I want everything to be okay again. But I know that nothing I say will ever change anything, so I manage to hold back.
It’s so damn heavy.
Will it ever get better?
Last updated on:2026-04-14T21:31:35+05:30
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it will get better. Start working on yourself. Explore your mind. You will realize with time that nothing is more important than your own peace and you shouldn't focus all of your energy on one specific person. Yes it hurts but let it be. Think of it like the wind that passes yes it's a strong wind but eventually wind will be gone. Let yourself be sad or angry or whatever and whenever u have urge to message him text in your notes or talk to AI urge will pass. Do what makes you happy and try not to stalk him at all. If he ever wanted anything he wouldn't wait to message you. Take care of yourself❤️
Makes sense. Thank you ❤️
when the feelings come back like that, is it more the loneliness hitting you or missing HIM specifically?
It’s him. Or maybe the illusion of him, the person he was when we first met.
His true self started to show pretty early in the relationship, and for most of the time, he treated me badly. But when it was good, it felt like magic.
I’m only now starting to learn about trauma bonding, reading about it and wow, no wonder I'm so confused.
i know that urge to text him feels so loud, like it’ll fix something.
same distracting myself nonstop after my breakup, work, friends, anything just to not feel it. the second it all slowed down, it hit me twice as hard. that crash after the distraction is REAL
Yes it will. Keep No Contact. Feel your emotions deeply. Cry. You can carry this.
I will ❤️